We Cannot Keep Excusing Violence As Illness

Struggle Mindset And Welcome Back

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Today's episode of Share the Struggle Podcast is a recap on the Winds Affair and a little discussion about accountability as we check in on yet another example of what the heck is wrong with society. Let me tell you something. Everybody struggles. The difference is some people choose to go through it and some choose to grow through it. The choice is completely yours. Which one you choose will have a very profound effect on the way you live your life. Am I so excited to be back with you? Oh, it is true. It is damn true. How do I know it's true? Because I love you. You already know this. Y'all already know this. We've been gathering here week after week after week, year after year after year. That's right. This little ditty right here started all the way back in July of 2020, and we ain't missed a week yet. Give yourselves a round of applause. Oh yeah, look at him. Oh yes. That little annoying noise in your ears and your speakers me cry up it. Because I'm so proud of you. Oh, I'm so proud of you. Look at you. It's all the reasons to be proud. Just love you. Man, it's been a long, it's been a long trip that we are on. All my day ones, my loyal ones, get your ones up. I appreciate you. I acknowledge you. Y'all are the reason for the season. I'll fall with them. Okay. I appreciate you. If this is new to you, if this is week one for you, then I welcome you and I thank you. And I encourage you to go on over to w w share the struggle podcast.com. Find all you need to know about the show. Don't forget we are on all major platforms. Share and subscribe and grow the tribe, whatever you gotta do. I appreciate you.

Windsor Fair Wrap Up From Camp

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Man, Windsor Fair is over. It flew by. It absolutely flew by. And uh tonight's episode of Share the Struggle Podcast, I am actually recording from inside the camper. That's right. The fair is over, the packing up is over, the hauling home is over. The unpacking has not quite begun. But I'm in the camper tonight because uh we just had errands and such to do when the wife was running around and I was watching the little one and and uh it's kind of like a a shift change right now. Uh I believe the queen is uh is in the tubby right now, and um I'm out in the I'm out in the uh the old camper reminiscing with you folks. Last week's episode I was looking at the camper through the window of the school bus as I was parked outside recording outside. But here we are again, back outside. I guess when winter gets here, your your options on podcasting are limited, and it's kind of crazy if you think about the last few weeks. We've gone from recording uh in my office, in my house, in the garage, to in the bus on I-90 headed to New York to recording outside with the bus park, to recording walking around a parking lot in Buffalo, to recording in the camper. Tons of options, all of them equal surefire affection for you folks. Okay? That's why we continue to do what we do, that's why we come back week after week. I'm tired, y'all. It has been a long stretch. I am beat. Beat, beat, beat, and I can't wait to get between the sheets. Although tomorrow's one of them 5 a.m. mornings, so um yeah. That's fun. Looking forward to that. The kiddo's been on a stretch of just uh wackiness when it comes to sleeping and such, and it's hard to um manage that when you're um at a fair, you know what I mean? She's really enjoying and loving all that's happening around her, so she's not really looking to nap, she'll fight that. And then when she naps, it's often too late, which then keeps her up all night, or you get back to camp and try to make the transition from the little buggy to uh to camp, and that doesn't go so well. All these things kind of go into it, but some nights are better than others, but it was definitely a challenge, and um we're gonna spend some time working on that before the Fryberg Fair because it didn't allow for quite enough resting, you know. But uh we made it work. Um I don't know why I'm rambling on right now, maybe because I'm just a bit tired, but I am excited. I am excited, I'm grateful, and I'm blessed, and I'm thankful. And um, I'm here to thank each and every one of you that came out to the Windsor Fair to show your support. And um, if you couldn't be at the fair, all of you that that shared we were at the fair, that uh spread positive vibes about us, um, all that was greatly appreciated. And um, I'm just gonna cut right to the chase and say that we had a tremendous fair, and I know that we were talking about um that last week on last week's show, how literally day one of the Windsor Fair was greater sales than any single day I had all the way out in Buffalo, New York, at a fair that is uh you know ten times the size. So pretty crazy, but I really feel like the lesson to be learned here is that that shows the strength of your tribe. That shows the ability of your people. And we've been going to the Windsor Fair for I don't know how many years now, four or five years, six years, whatever it's been. And um, we have an amazing family and support and and loyal customer base there. That it's really incredible when you're at a fair, and I've said this before, but when fair goers come into your booth and tell you that you're a part of their fair tradition, that uh some of them say, Oh, the first thing I do is come and buy from you, the last thing I do is come and buy from you. You are a part of my Windsor Fair experience. That's really what you're looking for. And the more people like that that feel that way, that becomes recession proof, that becomes slow proof. Does that make sense? When you have this loyal following that wants to support you, that wants to be there behind you, it can prevent you from some of the slow times. And that's some of the fairs that have been like where we have the most loyal following, there's been vendors that have been down, and we haven't been this year, and uh I really contribute a lot of that to the people that really love and support us, and that is uh that's an absolute blessing. And when it comes to the Windsor Fair, uh it could arguably be my favorite fair of the year. It's tremendous, everybody's in a good mood, and um, it's busy, but it's not crazy busy. Like everything about it, the people are super friendly, everybody that runs the fair behind the fair is amazing. Uh, the camping there, everything about it is tremendous. So um also, if it sounded like I just crapped my pants, I didn't. I'm sitting on the leather couch in the camper and I'm rather hot. I'm a touch sweaty, okay? So there's some friction there. Don't be don't be writing in saying that uh you're offended by me clapping my pants. I didn't. Okay? Back off a little bit. But this fair was amazing. Um last year we were down a little bit, and uh part of it was uh was weather and such, but this year, literally almost every day of the fair, I have to go back and look. We um I think we only had one day where we didn't have a greater day than last year. Only one day did we not see ourselves better ourselves from the previous year. So much so that on Saturday, um late Saturday afternoon, I had passed our total for the 2025 Windsor Fair, and that's with the remainder of Saturday, Sunday, and Monday to go, which is an amazing feeling. So we had a we had tremendous success. Uh so thankful. I think we could have had a little better success had we not actually started selling out of a lot of things. And I did my best in between Erie County Fair and the Windsor Fair to restock and reload and do everything that I could, but um, that's the tough thing when you're the one-stop shop, like when you're the only guy doing production and sales, like that makes it tough. Um, I don't have anybody at home that's making the product for me. I don't have a you know a village of Sanders helpers that can do that type of stuff. I'm on my own. Um, so it it all adds up, right? You gotta you have to slow down and take the time to make things happen. And um, you know, we're kind of trailing off on a whole different discussion here, but I really wanted to come out of New York and Windsor with such success that I could take the next few weeks off and then get ready for the Freiburg Fair, which is uh the granddaddy of them all when it comes to us and our year, our season.

Sold Out Stock And Next Steps

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Um, and every year I seem to be scraping by as I get there. I roll in on the red, both um physically, emotionally, and financially. I often start that fair um on the old overdraft list, you know. And uh I was hoping to set myself up in a way that I financially would be okay to take the time off to get ready, to show up there recharged, refreshed, ready to go, fully stocked and loaded. And uh let's just say that really has not happened, you know. But I have to try to do the research and decide if I've made enough to uh survive between now and then. And there was a couple of fairs this weekend that I that I could have gotten into. Uh, one of them actually uh Matt Perkins had reached out and and and got me into, but I came out of this fair, sold out of a lot of things. Like one of our most popular hoodies, I sold out of small, medium, large, and extra large. Um, one shirt was extremely popular, and by the time I left the fair, I only had small, two X and 3X left. Um and that's that's just a couple of examples. A lot of them, a lot of things went that way, you know? And um the the struggle for me is if I were to go to another fair without product, I'm sacrifice sacrificing the time from home, the production, and I'm going there with not enough stuff to really have a successful event. So um that makes it tough. I wish there was a week in between because I could make some more of this stuff work for me, but um, it really just is what it is. And when I was packing up, um I actually broke one of the legs to my tent, which is fantastic. So um I'm down a display right now, so I have to get on the horn over that and see what I can figure out. So a little stressed about that, but that's just kind of the the side piece of it. So, overall, when you look at dollars and cents, and we talk about the Windsor Fair, it was a tremendous success for us. Uh, I gotta go back and look at all the previous years, but I'm willing to bet this might actually be the best year we've ever had at the Windsor Fair, so that's tremendous. And I like the way that we are trending uh to wrap up our travel season this year. So I'm really excited, I'm really encouraged by a lot of things. Now it's just the manipulating, the maneuvering to figure out um what I can afford and what it looks like across the board. So that's really what we're gonna spend the next few days doing. I'm gonna spend a lot of time um getting caught up on some custom stuff, trying to make some money that way, um, and to get ourselves positioned the best way that we possibly can. But

Fair Family Moments And Small World Ties

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fair recaps aren't all about dollars and cents, it's about the experience and and explaining how things went. And um this week was tremendously blessed. We had so much positive feedback, so many great encounters with people. That was uh it was incredible. As I've already mentioned, the people that have said, you know, you're part of my fair tradition, to the people that are coming in for the first time. Um I take it upon myself to really try to, for the first time, is really get them excited about the Windsor Fair, really try to be an ambassador for the fair. It's it's one that I'm extremely proud of. I I talk about this fair all the time, and so much so, I talk about this fair so much so that uh now family and friends are just coming to attend, to hang out, to work, and to camp. And uh that's pretty incredible because Isaiah, the young fellow that's become part of our family that I mentioned to you uh last year, and we've had a few episodes about, uh, he came out and helped out on um Friday and decided to camp out with uh me and the wife and the little one Friday night, Saturday night, and uh Sunday. He stayed all day and helped us pack up, get everything taken care of before he hit the road. Um so it was awesome just to spend three days together um, you know, with the family, just kind of um seeing how all that comes together. Paisley actually called him brother one day before the fair was over. Um it was uh it was really cool. And and the whole family element continues because my cousin Ben reached out to me during the week and he said, Hey man, um what are you up to? And I said, Well, you know, I'm at the Windsor Fair, and he said, That's that's why I'm calling. You guys have talked about it so much. I'm I'm thinking about I'm thinking about uh coming down and uh you know um what's the camping like, what's that scenario like? And I said, Hey man, you're gonna talk to Sue and camping, and here's our number, and you'd have a great time. And him and um and and the fiance and the three kiddos, they came down, and then my other cousin Hannah showed up and um they camped for a few days and we just spent time as a family just hanging out and conversating and doing these things, and and uh it's crazy because I don't know the last time we did that. And and me and Ben, uh we grew up, he's much younger than me. Um I don't say much, but I'm maybe guessing eight or ten years, probably ten years, I think. I don't really know. I'm an idiot. But uh, you know, life happens, and they moved north when when he was younger, and life happens, and you don't really get to spend time and y'all grow up and and stuff like that. But like, you know, Ben was at my wedding, he was at my father's funeral, and there was a time randomly a couple of years ago when he said, What are you up to? when he showed up and and stayed in town and we hung out for a couple of days. But uh for us to sit down and spend every night for three nights just kind of hanging out, reminiscing, sharing stories, having a couple of coldies, um, I don't think that's happened since we were kids, minus the drinking. Like, we haven't spent that kind of time since we were kids, and and and to sit down and have those types of conversations and and and to hang out, um it was it was incredible. And uh on the last night we were together, all the uh ladies had gone away, and you know, Brie went home and Allie was in the camper with uh with Paisley, and it was me, Ben, and Isaiah, and we were out there talking and realized it was 2.11 in the morning. And we said, well, we probably should shut this down. But uh we just had these heartfelt, amazing conversations, and it's kind of funny because um I introduced Isaiah to to Ben and uh and to Bree, and uh they only live three roads away from each other. Three roads, and the farm in which he works at uh Brie grew up at. So just kind of crazy how this small town, small world connections kind of play out. The first night we were um gathered round, just kind of hanging out, telling stories. Um my little girl Paisley was was on my lap and uh she was looking up at the sky, looking up at the stars. And um she kind of crawled up by my by my head and shoulders, and she was staring at the sky with her head back, and she said, Hi papa. Hey papa. And I said to Ben, uh, Did you hear that, bud? And I told him, and um I knew my dad would be there because my dad loved Benjamin so much. And um and he looked up to my dad so much when he was a little guy, and uh I don't have the best family situation. And you guys have heard that. If you've been listening to the 320 plus episodes, then you've heard a lot of them about family and and and um how little of it little of it I have left, and uh I'm really big on the fact that it doesn't take blood to be family because I've built tremendous relationships throughout my life, and uh friends become family, and um I've lost a lot of blood family along the way. So for me to be sitting down with my blood and having conversations, and and I knew my dad was there, and that he was proud of that, and that um this is something that he would have been hoping and praying for. So it was an awesome weekend, man. It was an awesome weekend. I don't know um really how to put it any other way, other than it was just an awesome weekend. We had a successful event, and we made amazing memories and connections and relationships, and we reminisced about the past and we talked about the future, and uh it was incredible, and um now we're home and we're getting geared up for the biggest event of the year, we're getting uh geared up for all the craziness around here. I gotta get caught up on what's going on around here and and uh straightening some things out, but man. What a uh fast track summer it's been. What a crazy whirlwind this year has been. I can't believe my birthday's in a couple of weeks. Gonna be 44. I don't know why I said it that way. But um it's it's wild, man. I don't even know how to how to really put it into words everything that's been going on going on, but um changing subjects and moving on from that.

The Clancy Trial And Public Defense

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Speaking of wild, this Clancy trial makes me sick, man. It makes me sick. This Clancy trial, I have not really paid a lot of attention. Okay? I haven't paid a lot of attention. My mom was watching the trial, my wife was talking about it, and I'm like, what is this? What's going on? And they explained to me that this savage murdered her children, and um, you know, I I I learned the story like everybody already knows. I'm not gonna be on here um explaining in the court case here one bit. That's not what I'm here to do. I just want to talk about facts and reality for a moment as we check in on the wild, crazy lunatic society that is being raised and built around us. Um the crazies are surrounding us, okay? Let me just say that. Because I never in a million years would have thought that there would be people standing out, women standing out with signs protesting and and and raising their voices and doing whatever they want to do in defense of a lunatic who savagely murdered her children, her beautiful innocent children. How are these moms trying to protect this mom who murdered her children? I can't even believe it. And in the lunatic left-wing liberal state of Massachusetts, which I absolutely despise Massachusetts. This is one more reason why I just can't stand Massachusetts. Can we just give it to Canada already? Just give it to Canada. Not I don't like Canada much either, but they can have Massachusetts. Anyways, in Massachusetts, you have to prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that someone does not have a mental illness, that there's no mental instability there. Where in most other states, you would have to prove beyond the shadow of a doubt that you are um suffering from a mentor mental illness. So it's totally opposite in Massachusetts than it is in many states. You have to prove that they do not are or are not suffering from mental illness, when in other states you have to prove that you are. So that's something to think about. But um these women, I can't believe there's women, mothers standing out, lined up in the streets, all these groups online, some of the hate you see online, some of these crazy lunatics freaking out online and saying to set her free that she's innocent. Are we? Where are we? Are we on the same planet? Like what what who got into the catnip? What is going on here, man? Like, did all these women suffer from the Tide Pod challenges of of of COVID? Going on here, man. Lay off the bleach. What is happening? Why are we out here screaming to have for her release for her innocence? She savagely murdered her kids. She explained to you like it's truth. There's no denying she murdered her kids, but she's suffering. Postpartum's suffering. I understand postpartum is real, and I'm not here to deny that, but the facts are the facts. When you murder your children, you should go away. And for people to stand up and fight on her side, for people to lash out at those who don't agree with her guilt is crazy to me.

Accountability Discipline And Consequences

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And this goes back to accountability for me. Because this nation, this country, this society has been lacking accountability for a long time. And we've we've discussed it many times about the lack of accountability in this country. The kids get away with nonsense because there's no accountability, because their parents don't hold them to the to the standard of discipline. It appears we no longer teach right from wrong. We no longer preach consequences. People are going around in life unchecked. They're hiding behind their keyboard saying nonsense unchecked. At some point in some time, we might need to bring back bullying because some people talk too much. Some people are a little too opinionated. Some people have no fear of repercussion. They should be smacked down back in their seat because they talked out of line, because they spoke out of line, because they they, you know, unchecked themselves, because they went a little crazy and spoke above themselves. You understand what I'm saying? There's some people out there talking nonsense that need to realize there is reality and there is accountability. People are comfortable sitting at home behind their keyboard saying, you are this, you did that, you're wrong for this. I constantly had people tell me online that I'm a racist, I'm a Nazi, I'm a conspiracy theorist, I'm a uh right-wing political group, conspiracy theorist, nonsense that doesn't belong at certain events. That's just me, okay? And that's just little random things, like just a random example. But you all know there's examples in your life every day of people saying stuff. You see things pop up on your timeline all the time that you say, How do you feel like it's okay to say that? If you open yourself up to a public forum, if you make a uh a statement on your local town's Facebook chat page, you better prepare yourself from a bunch of Karen's and and Kevins out there that are gonna pop off and and and preach nonsense and make insults and call you names because they've been living their life unchecked. They've been living their life without accountability. I didn't say things to certain people as a child because I was afraid of getting my ass whooped. This society needs to put itself in check because it's got a fear of getting its ass whooped. And if there's a woman out there who has the no fear of killing her children, she needs to get her ass put in check. She needs discipline. This society needs to see accountability. The people of this country needs to see consequences. She deserves discipline. It needs to happen. Part of me instantly says she needs a death penalty, but part of me also thinks that's all she wanted, and that's all she wants and all she hopes for. So maybe she needs to sit around and suffer for a little bit and think about what she's done. But she doesn't need freedom. She doesn't need this brush underneath the rug, and society doesn't need it either. There needs to be accountability, there needs to be consequences, and the fact that we have people standing up on her behalf, the fact we have people that will lash out against you and me on social media saying that she's innocent and you don't understand. Oh, I understand, sweetheart. She murdered her children. That bitch deserves to go. And the problem with this mental illness nonsense hall pass that gets given to everybody, whether it's postpartum, whether it's anxiety, whether it's PTSD, whatever it is, that I don't care what it is between you and me. This mental illness excuse in life needs to go away. There needs to be accountability. Even if you are messed up and something happened, guess what? It happened, and you need to pay up. That's how I feel. That's how I will always feel. Because if we make the exceptions for some, we will make the exceptions for all. And they will be copycats and they will be excuses and they will be reasons. That's why our president has had so many assassination attempts against his life, because these people get praised in the media. That's why there's lunatics in this society, because they're looking for the accolades. You think about all the school shooters, all the all the suicide bombers, all the nonsense. It's because they are gonna get their moment of fame. They're gonna get their moment in the sun, they're gonna get their exposure on social media, and now they're gonna get their cult following that believes they're innocent, like Mangioni and all these other lunatics that kill innocent people, and they have their own reason for doing it, and they get people to get behind their reason. I have reasons for all kinds of shit, but you know what I also know in this country? Right and wrong, legal and not legal, consequences. You understand what I'm saying? I would like to bust the ass of a lot of people, but I can't because it's not right, and because there should be accountability, and there should be discipline, and I want to be around to watch my daughter grow up. I want to be home with my family, so I don't bust off, so I don't go crazy, and I swallow my crazy to prevent myself from being away from my family because I was raised on discipline and accountability. This society needs to get back to it. Clancy needs to be a damn example, not a mistrial. When there was the talk of a mistrial, my first and only assumption was there's one lunatic Karen in that juror's room that will not convict her, that will not say she's guilty. There's one lunatic that is protecting her. When I found out there was only one true patriot American, wholehearted loving American, somebody that breathes and believes in this great country and the great people and the humanity that exists and the beauty of children. Only one bold juror was bold enough to stand up and say she's not getting away with it today. That blew my ever-loving mind, and to find out it was just one person, and that one person wasn't even a mother, it was a man standing up against the nonsense lunatic movement. That scares me. That scares me about this country. I can't believe it. I can't even imagine it. And and I really have not spent a lot of time watching the trial. I know them enough of the facts to know, okay, we're done here. And she should be too. I didn't subject myself to watching the trial and understanding and learning all these things because it was only gonna make me more angry. And it was gonna make me more upset to think that someone could do that to their own children. So, um, in a world full of enough angry, I removed myself from the situation. But I fully expected discipline and accountability, and yet this country has failed to do that yet again. The the degenerate state of Massachusetts has done it again. It's heartbreaking. It really is, it's heartbreaking. And I

Copycat Concerns And Legal Loopholes

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heard today, because I've been busy um at the fair and not really paying attention to a lot of things, but I came home and I actually popped the news on today, and I heard of another woman in Illinois today. A woman in Illinois who word is, rumors are, reports are, she was a little um infatuated with this whole Clancy case. And she sent some text messages to a friend about the Clancy case, and then shortly thereafter killed her two-year-old child. And her reasoning and excuse behind this is that her child was the devil, and she was doing this to help him. Now I'm not saying that this is a copycat murder situation that this lady um, you know, was trying to copy this whole Clancy incident. But reports are that she was kind of infatuated with the case. She was talking about the case. I would assume she was probably defending this lunatic at the same time. So I'm not saying this is a copycat scenario, but you would be crazy to not connect some some dots here. And it makes me wonder if maybe Massachusetts and the judicial system did the right thing and dropped a hammer on a woman who savagely killed her kids. If they did that, would this woman in Illinois have had the courage and the crazy to kill her two-year-old child? When people get through life unchecked, eventually your entire society becomes unchecked. Lacking discipline, accountability. And then when you have a sorry excuse, one of the worst presidents in the history of this country, letting all these illegals in, letting all these immigrants in that come over with their own beliefs, with their own their own cultural beliefs, and they come over to an unchecked society, one lacking discipline and accountability, and they begin to force their ways and theories onto our society, we create an unhinged society. In the world that I grew up in, this Clancy trial would have been an example. Mothers would have been out there pushing for the death penalty. Instead it's the opposite. And I can't help but wonder if we didn't do the right thing in Massachusetts, it'd be a two-year-old waking up tomorrow in Illinois. And we know already that that lunatic in Illinois is gonna plead insanity. The one thankful difference between Illinois and Massachusetts is that she has to prove, beyond the shadow of a doubt, that she is unstable, that she does have a mental disability. So it'll be just a little bit harder for her to get away with it. But even then, these loopholes shouldn't exist. Even in situations where society and programs failed people, when these things happen, we can't have a hall pass. We can't say, oh well, you know, the mental health in this country failed them. They weren't there for them. They they you know they denied them the help they needed, they denied them the medication, they they released them, they didn't help them, they didn't coach them. You know, they failed them, it's not their fault. Well, it happened. And um they need to pay for it. We need to have a nation free of hall passes. We need to get back to accountability, and I pray and hope we start to make an example of these lunatics in this country. I'm over the supportive movement for crazy. I can't take it anymore. All these people lining up to protect the crazy, to defend the crazy. Innocent children died, and you are not lining the street with um just moments of silence. You're not lining the street with prayer, you're not having candlelight vigils, you're not out there with photos of these little kids making monuments for them. No, we're out there with signs and rage pleading for this mother's innocence. This mother is a murderer and she deserves whatever we can throw at her. I never envisioned as a child that this is the type of crap I would see on TV, that this is the type of nonsense that I would live through. Never saw it. Never thought in a million years this would happen. And I hope and pray we make this go away so my little girl doesn't have to grow up in a society where this is accepted, where this is okay, where this crazy just prevails unchecked, and lunatics will line up and support them. It needs to stop. Revoke the hall passes, drop the hammer, make examples, and when we begin to do so, this will stop. So many, so many cases in this world would all go away if we started to drop accountability and discipline on the laps of those who offend. The looting and the rioting and all these different instances, lock 'em up, throw the book at 'em, the looting and the rioting will stop. All this craziness, these lunatics that plead insanity, put 'em to it. Hold 'em accountable, accountable, it'll begin to stop. They all need to be held accountable. No more room for repeatals and getting out, no more nonsense. I'm over it. The hall passes need to go. Accountability needs to come back, and this society, this great country, needs to come back to being what it always was. Our future, our children's future, depends on it.

Final Plea To Drop The Hammer

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Do the right thing, America. The rest of this is absolutely embarrassing. Thank you for supporting my American dream. Now go wash your friggin' hands and feel they savage. That's it, and that's all, Biggie Smalls. If you're allowed proud American, can you find yourself to be more finding on YouTube and Facebook Proud American Facebook? Find me on underscore. Underscore. Now go wash your fucking hands, you filthy savage.