March 18, 2026

I Can’t Chase This Dream Without You

I Can’t Chase This Dream Without You
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Everybody loves the highlight reel of entrepreneurship. The booth photos, the road trips, the “we’re chasing a dream” energy. What people don’t see is who’s back home keeping the whole machine running when one of you leaves and the bills, chores, pets, and a one-year-old tornado don’t pause.

My wife joins me to tell the other side of the story: the chaos coordinator life, the extra responsibilities that land on one person’s shoulders, and the surprising ways role reversals can build real respect. We talk honestly about marriage and small business stress, financial pressure, and how simple things like a text message can turn into a fight when you’re both exhausted and trying to hold it together. You’ll hear our take on why relationships are 100% and 100%, not 50-50, and how “uncomfortable conversations” keep resentment from taking root.

We also get into the practical side of making this work, from carving out a dedicated home office to planning the next events on the road as a family. If you’re balancing a startup, a side hustle, work from home life, or parenting with ambition, this one hits the real stuff: teamwork, perspective, and the village it takes to keep a dream alive.

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00:00 - Setting Up The Perspective Shift

02:00 - Late Night Chaos And No Sleep

12:20 - Home Projects And Losing The Dog

13:53 - What Spouses Carry When You Leave

18:45 - Respect Grows When Roles Flip

23:50 - Communication Under Money Stress

27:56 - Supporting The Dream Without Resentment

32:00 - The New Office And Regaining Focus

38:21 - Next Events And Road Life Plans

43:08 - Where To Follow And Final Thanks

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For the past few weeks here on Share the Struggle Podcast, we talked about Loud Proud American and the journey to Daytona Bike Week.

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We talked about the sacrifice, the challenges, the triumph, and the results.

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This week we flipped the script just a little bit as we listen to what life is like on the other side, what life is like for the loved ones in your life that sacrifice for you to chase that dream in your life.

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This week on Share the Struggle Podcast, I will be joined by my lovely and beautiful wife as we talk about the challenges, the difficulties, and the sacrifices of being married to a nut job like myself who's chasing this dream with a relentless commitment.

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Let me tell you something.

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Everybody struggles.

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The difference is some people choose to go through it and some choose to grow through it.

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The choice is completely yours.

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Which one you choose will have a very profound effect on the way you live your life.

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If you find strength in the struggle, then this podcast is for you.

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Have a relationship that is comfortable with uncomfortable conversations.

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Uncomfortable conversations challenge you, humble you, and build you.

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What it do, what it do, what it hot, did it it do?

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Almighty.

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Am I so excited to be joined by you?

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Oh, it's true.

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It's damn true.

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Welcome to the podcast, boo.

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Thanks.

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Here I am.

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Eating ice cream.

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At eleven o'clock at night.

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Yep.

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It's well, it's actually past eleven o'clock.

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And it's been one of those days here at Liberty Ponderosa.

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Yeah.

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We're just gonna do a quick screenshot before we move on.

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What time did you wake me up this morning?

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And you're like, oh, I can't sleep.

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And you kept rolling around and just throwing all the blankets around and informing me every four seconds you couldn't sleep.

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Any idea what time that might have been?

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I don't recall at what time it was.

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I looked at the clock and said, Oh, that's unfortunate.

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Let me now be awoken with you.

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I think it was two.

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Yeah, that was lovely.

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I loved all of that.

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I actually went to sleep.

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I started doing research because I was wide awake.

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We fell asleep with a little one, and you were offended that I asked you to remove her for my dead arm because I had lost feeling and blood flow.

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And you put her to bed.

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I remember dozing off, waking up, looking at the clock, and going, Oh my god, it's only like 12 30.

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That was glorious.

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I'm gonna have the greatest night's sleep.

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Then only to segue to be a couple hours later.

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Can't sleep.

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I'm not able to sleep.

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I can't sleep.

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First of all, I don't sound like that.

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You do at that time of the night.

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And number two, you ever think that maybe I was trying to wake you up because you were snoring?

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I don't want to hear it.

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So I get up, go to the bathroom, take a shit.

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No, I didn't take a shihatsu.

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And I um this is the listeners don't believe you.

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Well, the listeners should believe me because they've listened to me for almost 300 episodes.

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Believe that?

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But if they could smell you, they'd think otherwise.

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Watch your mouth.

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So I'm getting back into the routine here, and this was the first time I had to get up at 5 a.m.

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in a while to bring my mom to work.

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I know, you told me.

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In a month.

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So whenever you have to do that and you're not in a rhythm, you check the clock every half an hour.

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You know what I mean?

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So you disturbed my opportunity to make it to four o'clock before my 20 to 30 minute increments of sleep.

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So that started all evening.

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It was windy as all wind can get last night, too.

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It was pretty Yeah, we were in a warnado.

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Yeah, definitely a warnado.

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Brought my mom to work, came home, started doing some work, and then I was like, well, I gotta do the chores sooner than later because I gotta I know I have to patch the fence at some point.

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Came in here, tried to catch a little nap with the kiddo, but she was already awake.

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Mm-hmm.

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7 30.

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Which started her on a whirlwind of chaos.

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Yeah.

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Uncontrolled chaos.

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If I have those days where I get my mom to work in the morning, I can catch one of those babies' naps and get on that train, like get some work done, work a few hours before she wakes up, then do her morning routine, whatever, and then I'm starting to fade when she's taking a nap, and I can I can punch a clock on a good quick nap with the baby.

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Not today, Satan.

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I'm jealous.

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No sleeping today.

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She wanted to take a nap right before it was time to go get Mima from work, and that disturbed everything.

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No naps, no naps.

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All day.

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She took about a 10-minute nap on the ride home, and uh that was it.

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That girl, I'm just gonna say this.

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She is our kid, hands down, and and she gets that from us, okay.

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If you do recall, back in the day, you and I used to go to work, and then we would have friends be like, yo, we're going out, and we'd be like, All right, no problem.

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We'd come home, you'd shower shit and shave.

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I don't shave.

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Okay, well, maybe you feathered your pubes, whatever.

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Maybe I shave my arms, call that.

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Yeah.

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Okay.

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Keep it PG.

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Keep it PG.

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And then we would maybe sit on the couch for 10 minutes, catch a quick 10-minute power and app, and boom, we were ready for hours of drinking.

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I remember just coming home, falling flat on my face on the bed, sleeping for 20 minutes, getting up, being like, okay, I'm good.

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That's what I'm saying.

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That's what I'm saying.

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Well, she does that.

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Mm-hmm.

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Yeah, because she takes that 10, 5, 10 minute nap, and she is ready to destroy the house.

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I remember our plan.

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You had said, hey, let's do the podcast together.

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I'm gonna bring her to the store.

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I'll keep her awake.

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She's gonna want to pass out.

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We just put her to bed.

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Mm-hmm.

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And I got home before nine o'clock.

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I just watched the entire finale of the World Baseball Classic, disappointed, not a fan, just saying, but I've managed to get in an entire baseball game with her still partying.

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During this time.

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She's a champ.

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During this time, you lost a dog.

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I didn't lose a fucking dog.

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Hey.

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Watch it.

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I'm about to snap a dog's neck.

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I'm about to trade that dog for a box of beans.

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He's a moron.

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Yeah.

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But before we get to all that and you're dealing with your chaotic nonsense, I was fighting with a coat rack out in my office.

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I texted you and asked if you were running a sander.

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It sounded like chaotic.

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Oh no.

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Oh no.

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I was about to send your drill through the roof.

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Well, I don't know what my drill did to deserve any of this abuse.

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It wouldn't hold on to my screw.

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It wouldn't screw, huh?

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You know what?

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This is what happened.

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I got so frustrated that I started yelling.

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I can't believe it.

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I'm sure you probably heard that before you heard the sander.

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No, I was like, what is that noise?

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In my words, exactly.

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I said, not everything has to be a test.

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I'm just trying to hang a damn curtain rod.

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I love that you experienced this and you felt this because anytime you ask me to do something and I start doing it and it's not going right, you always come in.

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Why is everything gotta be such a project with Yale?

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So all that actually and um enjoy it.

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It was your fault, actually.

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I hung your freaking stupid dry erase board in the wrong spot.

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No, you asked me to put it there.

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That's the exact spot I could put it in based off the hinges that are supposed to be there.

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And when you came in and I was still working on it 20 minutes later complaining about it, you were like, this guy.

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Why is everything always so dramatic?

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Guess what, Cinderella?

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I don't sound like that.

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You did one thing I would do, and it was dramatic.

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Uh oh.

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It was dramatic out there.

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Trust me.

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It was criminal what I did.

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Any construction site, I would have been thrown out.

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I've never heard a drill sound like a sander, but I was like, what is that noise?

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I walk to the bathroom and I'm listening.

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And I was like, sanding?

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I thought maybe you got into some new staining project.

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Like you assumed my staining of the office wasn't up to your standards.

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Nope.

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That damn screw gun is magnetic.

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Right.

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And my screw kept sticking to the end of it.

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Okay.

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And I was in such a lopsided of a position.

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Yes.

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Yeah.

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Meanwhile, holding up the dry erase board on my head.

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Been there.

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Under under it, trying to screw it in.

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And every time I would go to put pressure on it, it would fall off.

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Yeah.

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So I just kept swearing at this thing, and I said, you know what?

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F off.

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There was a giant hammer sitting right next to me.

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And I said, Pounded the screw into the screw.

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This is a screw.

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But I don't give a shit.

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I started it.

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Okay.

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Just started it.

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That's better.

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After four times of dropping it, and no, I'm not exaggerating or being dramatic.

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After four times of dropping it, I kicked my file cabinet, I punched my wall, and I almost threw your screw gun.

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I said, Good.

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No, not today, Satan.

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So I sounds pretty smooth.

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Tapped it in.

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Just tapped it in.

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Slightly.

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I'm glad you you figured it out.

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And then the sander was You gave that sucker full throttle.

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What kept happening is it's the right bit, but every time I would like give her the juice, it would slide off and not click in.

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Those bits are.

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So I said, you know what?

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It'll clip onto something.

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Those those bits are the cheesy soft steel bits that No, I use the new ones that I just got you.

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Then maybe they have shit screws that were in there.

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Probably because it came up with it.

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Yeah.

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And I use real screws.

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Yeah, that's what I had.

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But moral of the story, my curtain rods are up and uh And the screws will never come out.

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And no equipment was in the making of the To remove the curtain rod, I will have to shorten the shelf.

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Actually, no with a skill saw because those screws will never come out.

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No, not true.

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They didn't strip it at all actually.

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The heads aren't totally garbage.

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No, because I had to pull them out and do it six times.

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No, twice.

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Gotcha.

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Alright.

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So that all happened while you were dealing with utter chaos up here.

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So we had all that you had a rehab situation in there.

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Rehab.

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Rehab, reboot.

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DI we're rehabbing your farm stand into an office.

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So yeah.

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I'm so excited.

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Uh dog escapes the premises.

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It's um it's been a time.

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We're uh 11 30 p.m.

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getting ready to try to drop this episode, and we had we had planned for I would I'll just come out and say it.

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We planned for a much longer episode than what we're gonna deliver.

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But here's where we're at, okay?

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Here's where we're at.

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We're gonna finish this thing talking about your office as we segue to that.

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But I wanted to have you on here today to talk a little bit about what it's like on the other side, on the other side of the dream, on the other side of the journey, where over the past few weeks I talk about going to Daytona.

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I talk about all that's involved in it, the you know, the financial commitment, the time commitment, the um everybody that has to pitch in, you know, the people that are that are going, the people that are pulling the weight for us to go, the sacrifices that are made, the changes to routines, picking up um, you know, what other people's tasks are, the whole thing that goes into it, right?

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So it's not only just me being away from the house, it's like all my responsibilities falling on you.

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So I think it's important for people out there listening to hear like the other side of that story for multiple reasons, right?

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For people to understand when you're an entrepreneur, when you're chasing a dream or a passion, it does take a village and to understand how everybody feels about that and to give credit to the people that help along the way.

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You know what I mean?

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So I think it's good to have that perspective and insight.

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So um, if you just want to take it for a minute and just kind of talk about what it was like for you with me being gone and um how we kind of make this work together scenario, you know?

00:14:14.240 --> 00:14:17.120
Yeah, I like to call myself the chaos coordinator.

00:14:17.279 --> 00:14:17.600
Okay.

00:14:17.759 --> 00:14:18.240
That's me.

00:14:18.320 --> 00:14:18.799
That's me.

00:14:18.960 --> 00:14:19.840
I have a cup to prove it.

00:14:19.919 --> 00:14:20.559
It's up in the cabinet.

00:14:20.799 --> 00:14:21.679
You do have a chaos cup.

00:14:21.759 --> 00:14:23.279
Do you also have any ice cream left in that?

00:14:23.440 --> 00:14:23.600
I do.

00:14:23.679 --> 00:14:24.399
Would you like me to share?

00:14:24.559 --> 00:14:27.120
Well, since we're gonna do some talking, I'm gonna add some cheesecake.

00:14:29.039 --> 00:14:30.320
Don't mind me.

00:14:31.519 --> 00:14:31.840
Okay.

00:14:33.039 --> 00:14:41.200
Um, so the little bit of uh beginning portion of the show where you were talking about the kid and doing all the nonsense.

00:14:41.840 --> 00:14:42.559
Chaos.

00:14:43.200 --> 00:14:45.600
Yeah, that's pretty much what it was like while you were gone.

00:14:46.080 --> 00:14:47.519
It's pretty chaotic.

00:14:48.159 --> 00:14:52.799
But let's be honest, I wouldn't have it any other way.

00:14:53.600 --> 00:14:54.320
I wouldn't.

00:14:54.559 --> 00:14:55.200
I am.

00:14:57.759 --> 00:14:59.039
Have you had have you had some?

00:15:02.559 --> 00:15:17.120
I feel like I strive on the chaos because I'm so used to the chaos that when it's quiet or nothing's going on, like I'm my brain's like, what are you doing?

00:15:17.279 --> 00:15:18.799
Why are you not doing something?

00:15:19.200 --> 00:15:21.360
Is that why you're trying to get me to leave again next week?

00:15:21.600 --> 00:15:21.840
No.

00:15:22.080 --> 00:15:23.600
I just gave you permission to leave.

00:15:24.159 --> 00:15:25.679
You can leave whenever you want.

00:15:26.000 --> 00:15:27.440
You just can't leave me.

00:15:28.960 --> 00:15:32.240
That's a death sentence on you, not me.

00:15:33.519 --> 00:15:35.279
I was finishing your ice cream.

00:15:37.600 --> 00:15:54.720
So yeah, I mean, it's a lot um on one person, but like you said, it's uh we have a village, um, and you know, there's people around that always, you know, ask for help and stuff, but you just sort of get used to what needs to be done and you just take care of it.

00:15:54.879 --> 00:15:56.639
Like that's how I was raised.

00:15:56.720 --> 00:15:58.720
Like something needs to be done, just get it done.

00:15:58.960 --> 00:16:08.399
Um but yeah, I mean, we're not only am I running this household while you're gone, um, I'm running the farm.

00:16:08.639 --> 00:16:10.399
We have the extra dog now.

00:16:10.559 --> 00:16:14.480
We have a mobile, very mobile one-year-old.

00:16:14.799 --> 00:16:15.600
Sassaphras.

00:16:15.919 --> 00:16:17.440
Oh boy.

00:16:17.679 --> 00:16:20.399
I came home to a child with a southern accent.

00:16:20.720 --> 00:16:21.600
I don't know how.

00:16:23.039 --> 00:16:27.360
I was in the south, I come back, and the child has a southern accent.

00:16:27.679 --> 00:16:28.639
It's great.

00:16:28.960 --> 00:16:36.879
Um, but yeah, I mean, it's crazy, yeah, but awesome at the same time.

00:16:37.759 --> 00:16:39.279
Well, I'm glad you feel that way.

00:16:39.759 --> 00:16:40.159
Yeah.

00:16:41.600 --> 00:16:56.159
Do you think that um I don't want to answer this for you, so I'm gonna say do you think me being away gives you any respect for what I do or appreciation for what I do when I am here?

00:16:57.120 --> 00:16:58.240
Of course, yeah.

00:16:59.039 --> 00:17:12.319
Because I think that I think it's great for couples in this situation because when you do what the other person does, I think you gain an appreciation for what they do.

00:17:12.799 --> 00:17:23.759
And then when you're the person that leaves, and then you come home feeling guilty to have not been doing what you normally would do, then you start trying to do what the other person would do.

00:17:23.839 --> 00:17:32.319
So I just feel like when those roles change, it's an opportunity for both people to form appreciation.

00:17:32.720 --> 00:17:34.160
Maybe I need to go away.

00:17:34.480 --> 00:17:36.079
Yeah, knock yourself out.

00:17:36.880 --> 00:17:38.480
Maybe you'll appreciate what I do.

00:17:38.799 --> 00:17:47.359
I'm not saying that I don't, but I'm saying like it's a unique scenario where I'm a stay-at-home dad and trying to run a business a lot of the time, right?

00:17:47.759 --> 00:18:03.759
So for you to like you're staying home and running a like you're you're working from home and you're taking care of the kid and everything at the same time, like I just think that it gives you a feeling of like what I would say I have for frustration sometimes.

00:18:03.839 --> 00:18:04.400
You know what I mean?

00:18:04.480 --> 00:18:10.400
I think it allows for any couple, it allows them to see the other person's point of view as to what their frustrations might be.

00:18:10.799 --> 00:18:13.519
Like you picked up my whole routine, right?

00:18:13.920 --> 00:18:32.400
Bringing my mom to work, like when I would do certain things, like you picked up my stuff along with your stuff, and then there's times when like when I'm gone, you start thinking about like the fact that you're doing my workload and your workload, and you come home with a new appreciation for what you've done, you know what I'm saying?

00:18:32.559 --> 00:18:34.240
And then you try to help out in other areas.

00:18:34.319 --> 00:18:46.079
So I just think overall, for anybody, anyone's relationship, I think it's very beneficial, ironically, that we we do this where you take on the other person's responsibilities.

00:18:46.240 --> 00:18:47.680
I think it's I think it's good.

00:18:47.920 --> 00:18:50.160
I think we've talked about it in many other episodes.

00:18:50.240 --> 00:18:59.440
Like a relationship is always going to be 100%, 100%, not 50-50, where a lot of people actually like say that their relationship is 50%, 50%.

00:18:59.839 --> 00:19:05.359
Because here's the deal like, if I only put in 50%, where am I at?

00:19:05.839 --> 00:19:14.480
Nothing worth uh working for and achieving and things that you desire and dream for, you're ever gonna attain with only 50% effort.

00:19:14.559 --> 00:19:16.640
It just doesn't, it just doesn't work.

00:19:16.880 --> 00:19:26.640
I had watched a video um at one point and it had mentioned um it kind of put put that into perspective.

00:19:26.880 --> 00:19:33.039
Um, and it's also something that you know my grandma had always said, like you said, you're never gonna get anywhere with 50%.

00:19:33.599 --> 00:19:43.759
However, if you think about it this way, if you're at 100% all the time, okay, and let's just say tomorrow I don't have a hundred percent.

00:19:44.000 --> 00:19:50.880
Tomorrow maybe I got 75 because I'm just not feeling well, I'm just not feeling it, but you're at a hundred percent.

00:19:51.440 --> 00:19:54.960
So that way it kind of evens out.

00:19:55.200 --> 00:19:55.759
Right.

00:19:56.319 --> 00:20:03.119
Because if I'm at 50% and you're maybe at 20% that day, you know what I mean?

00:20:03.200 --> 00:20:06.480
You're not gonna get to that hundred percent, you're you're not gonna fill that gap.

00:20:06.720 --> 00:20:13.519
So um I think you know, we definitely help each other out all the time.

00:20:13.680 --> 00:20:14.000
Right.

00:20:14.160 --> 00:20:26.480
Um, when it comes to, you know, when you're on the road or when you're when you're home, we it just all about good communication and a good a good team, I guess.

00:20:26.960 --> 00:20:48.079
I think the big thing for me that I realized since having Paisley and going on the road and like our routines changing and everything is that so many couples that are having difficult times, one of the big sticking points is you don't understand what I do.

00:20:48.720 --> 00:20:49.200
Right?

00:20:49.680 --> 00:20:52.960
Like I think most couples break up for a few reasons.

00:20:53.119 --> 00:20:55.119
Number one is probably financial, right?

00:20:55.200 --> 00:21:09.759
Everybody that's like all married couples argue about finances, communication, communication, those things, but it's also an understanding where people don't feel appreciated and they don't feel understood, and part of that is you just don't get it.

00:21:10.480 --> 00:21:11.119
You know what I mean?

00:21:11.200 --> 00:21:12.960
Yeah, for relationships, like you just don't get it.

00:21:13.039 --> 00:21:25.039
You don't know how bad my work is, you don't know how difficult my schedule is, you don't know how it is for me to go to work and do my stuff and come home and then try to be, you know, a good, a good partner and a good parent.

00:21:25.759 --> 00:21:28.000
They always feel like left on an island.

00:21:28.240 --> 00:21:36.480
And for us, it's unique because it's not like now either one of us leave and do a job elsewhere.

00:21:36.640 --> 00:21:37.440
You know what I'm saying?

00:21:37.680 --> 00:21:41.119
So it's not like I go punch a clock at a dealership anymore.

00:21:41.200 --> 00:21:41.359
Right.

00:21:41.519 --> 00:21:44.880
It's not like you're going to punch a clock at a medical office anymore.

00:21:45.200 --> 00:21:50.319
We literally can see and feel what the other person's going through because we see everybody's day to day.

00:21:50.400 --> 00:21:50.640
Right.

00:21:50.960 --> 00:21:59.759
So my point that I'm making is when I go away, you ultimately know everything that I'm doing, but you also take on all of my tasks.

00:22:00.319 --> 00:22:05.359
So I can't come home and say to you in six months, you just don't get it.

00:22:05.599 --> 00:22:07.759
You don't understand how much I do around here.

00:22:08.240 --> 00:22:09.440
Because you just had to do it.

00:22:09.599 --> 00:22:16.000
You plowed the driveway, you did the chores, like so there's a great understanding there.

00:22:16.160 --> 00:22:24.079
And I think that like you can't say to me, like, you don't understand what it's like to clean this house and take care of this kid all day and try to work.

00:22:24.400 --> 00:22:26.160
Because I do that too.

00:22:27.200 --> 00:22:28.880
I think we're very fortunate.

00:22:28.960 --> 00:22:41.599
It's a weird scenario that we have, but the more I think about it, I think it's fortunate because we both have an understanding of what it takes for this family to work and what it takes for us to to you know do what we want to do, where most couples don't have that.

00:22:41.680 --> 00:22:46.559
There's resentment that comes from people that are like, You have no idea how tough my job is.

00:22:46.720 --> 00:22:47.680
You know what I'm saying?

00:22:48.000 --> 00:22:50.559
Couples always argue about that, I feel like.

00:22:50.640 --> 00:22:51.119
You know what I mean?

00:22:51.279 --> 00:22:51.759
Yeah, for sure.

00:22:52.000 --> 00:22:54.400
And for us, it's like, no, you actually get to experience it.

00:22:54.480 --> 00:23:03.039
So if there's couples out there that are struggling with some of that stuff, putting yourself in a position that helps you understand what your partner actually goes through, I think is I think is helpful.

00:23:03.119 --> 00:23:06.240
And I feel like in a roundabout way, this has done that.

00:23:06.319 --> 00:23:07.119
You know what I mean?

00:23:07.440 --> 00:23:11.519
But it's also important to be a team player of your relationship, right?

00:23:11.759 --> 00:23:28.559
Like you, it's okay to not be okay and not be able to put in a hundred percent every day, but the moment that you know you just kind of dismiss that all the time, then you need to reevaluate the situation.

00:23:28.720 --> 00:23:33.200
Like, how how do you help your partner get through what they're dealing with?

00:23:33.440 --> 00:23:34.000
You know what I mean?

00:23:34.079 --> 00:23:45.039
Because, like, yeah, they very well could have a tough job at work, but like you have to be there to pick them up when they're down, right?

00:23:45.200 --> 00:23:47.599
And and and I think we do a really good job at that.

00:23:47.759 --> 00:23:57.039
Like and that person also has to have the understanding of like, and this is where I think a lot of people go wrong, and I used to struggle with this in a career that I didn't like.

00:23:58.160 --> 00:24:03.759
You would come home angry and then not turn off the angry, you know what I'm saying?

00:24:04.000 --> 00:24:16.319
So you're you're punishing the people that are close to you for reasons that are completely out of their control, but you start justifying it as, well, I go to work and I'm miserable because I'm trying to provide for you, and then you start taking it out on each other, you know what I mean?

00:24:16.400 --> 00:24:25.680
So I think it's to your point on the communication, not only being there for each other, but holding each other accountable too, to the sense of like don't take that shit out on me, man.

00:24:25.839 --> 00:24:26.000
Right.

00:24:26.079 --> 00:24:26.400
You know what I mean?

00:24:26.720 --> 00:24:28.240
We've had those conversations, yeah, for sure.

00:24:28.400 --> 00:24:31.359
We've both been in careers we just weren't we just weren't happy.

00:24:31.839 --> 00:24:41.200
I think it's also funny when the roles get flipped and then you find something you actually enjoy doing that the other person does.

00:24:41.440 --> 00:24:42.319
Oh yeah.

00:24:43.200 --> 00:24:48.880
I think I know one that you picked up that maybe you might have done more than you even needed to.

00:24:50.319 --> 00:24:52.000
Oh, you mean blowing?

00:24:52.319 --> 00:24:52.799
Yeah.

00:24:54.640 --> 00:24:58.960
I think you enjoyed plowing snow a little bit more than you anticipated.

00:24:59.599 --> 00:25:07.119
Yeah, because you know what I enjoy a lot is mud season.

00:25:07.359 --> 00:25:08.799
And it's very similar to that.

00:25:09.119 --> 00:25:10.799
Oh my god, you do love mud season.

00:25:10.880 --> 00:25:12.079
I hate mud season.

00:25:12.799 --> 00:25:15.599
I love mud season because I like to make those little rivers.

00:25:16.160 --> 00:25:20.160
And it's very like time consuming, yeah.

00:25:20.319 --> 00:25:24.079
But it's very like relaxing at the same time, which is like odd.

00:25:24.640 --> 00:25:25.519
That's probably sounding.

00:25:30.400 --> 00:25:42.319
But it's also like time consuming because like if I just like with my water puddles, rivers, if I don't move this pile, then it's not gonna flow properly.

00:25:42.400 --> 00:25:43.920
Or and it's the same thing with the snow.

00:25:44.000 --> 00:25:51.839
Like, if I don't move this, then I can't get to that pile, and so it just very much uh ADHD friendly.

00:25:52.319 --> 00:26:01.279
Well, I'm thankful that I wish I would have known sooner because there's many times when I had deadlines and things to do, but I was like, Well, here it goes five hours of me moving snow in the driveway.

00:26:01.519 --> 00:26:04.799
Now I know, like, oh, your turn, you're gonna have at it.

00:26:05.119 --> 00:26:05.680
Yeah.

00:26:05.920 --> 00:26:06.960
So I like it.

00:26:07.039 --> 00:26:07.440
That was fun.

00:26:07.599 --> 00:26:14.720
It's kind of funny though to think like that certain things you're like, you know, wouldn't you even think to do, then you get forced to do them and you're like, oh, it's justn't that bad.

00:26:14.799 --> 00:26:15.519
I don't mind this.

00:26:15.759 --> 00:26:19.440
It's also, I will say, when you have like a week of doing it, pretty cool.

00:26:19.680 --> 00:26:23.440
When it's like months and it seems like every day you're out there, then you can kind of be over there.

00:26:23.599 --> 00:26:32.480
I mean, it will be nice knowing that like next year, like we have the plow truck and we also have the um the bucket loader, so you can like move.

00:26:32.559 --> 00:26:35.599
We can be both doing um snow road.

00:26:35.759 --> 00:26:37.759
With the plow truck, I don't need to be on the bucket loader.

00:26:37.920 --> 00:26:40.480
Yeah, you do to get to the barn.

00:26:40.720 --> 00:26:40.880
No.

00:26:41.279 --> 00:26:42.799
Because I'm not going off the road.

00:26:43.039 --> 00:26:43.680
Yeah.

00:26:44.000 --> 00:26:46.559
I totaled one truck off that road, I'm not doing it again.

00:26:46.799 --> 00:26:48.079
I know, that's why you use the bucket loader.

00:26:48.240 --> 00:26:49.359
That's why that one's still over there.

00:26:49.519 --> 00:26:52.319
Because it pulled the bucket loader out and still sitting in the puckies.

00:26:52.640 --> 00:26:53.119
Yeah.

00:26:53.359 --> 00:26:54.960
That's a time for a different day.

00:26:55.039 --> 00:26:55.759
You know what I mean?

00:26:56.000 --> 00:26:56.880
We've talked about it.

00:26:57.039 --> 00:26:58.000
Yeah, we have.

00:26:58.559 --> 00:27:00.240
Time to roll her over the scales.

00:27:00.640 --> 00:27:01.200
Yeah.

00:27:02.880 --> 00:27:03.759
Anyway.

00:27:04.559 --> 00:27:27.920
So I like I've said before, and and I don't know if you've caught up on the episodes, but um I thanked you before for giving me the opportunity to do this, whether I whether I fail or succeed, you know, and we have those we have tense conversations as well when I'm out there, because you know, I also think that text is left for interpretation.

00:27:28.079 --> 00:27:55.519
And, you know, I could be like, for example, for what we're going through, is I'm stating just realistic facts, and you think that I'm pissed off and angry and upset about it, and then you're like, Well, you're not gonna sell anything with that attitude, so there's there's all those frustrations, but it's like it puts all the stress on a relationship because you're here holding down all the responsibilities that you do, plus what I do, the family dynamic, the work, the everything.

00:27:55.920 --> 00:28:00.400
And you're like, hey, you're leaving us behind to go do this, and then you're gonna complain to me.

00:28:00.559 --> 00:28:14.960
And on my side, it's like I'm away from my entire family, and I'm sleeping on a flat ass air mattress in the middle of a pontoon over here, and I'm not making money, I'm away from my family, and I'm not paying bills.

00:28:15.279 --> 00:28:20.880
Those those stressors and that element is very difficult on a on a family to get to get through.

00:28:21.119 --> 00:28:30.480
But I always feel that those things make you stronger as well, when you can when you can kind of figure those things those things out too, you know.

00:28:30.559 --> 00:28:49.039
So I just think that number one, being there for me and being supportive and helping me through those those times and giving me that that opportunity, um, you know, it's obviously something that I that I greatly appreciate and that the business wouldn't be continuing if you didn't feel that way, right?

00:28:49.200 --> 00:28:58.160
I mean, there's a lot of those but it's uh it's a dream of yours, and I think it's important for you to follow that dream, and we've talked about it a hundred times.

00:28:58.400 --> 00:29:01.359
Yeah, I mean, there's times that we're like, what are we doing?

00:29:01.599 --> 00:29:01.839
Yeah.

00:29:02.000 --> 00:29:06.400
Like this isn't this is not where we need it to be.

00:29:06.480 --> 00:29:14.880
This is not where we thought it would be, but it's one of those things that's like I'm gonna support you whether you keep your business open or you close it.

00:29:14.960 --> 00:29:20.400
Like, whatever you do, like we're a family and we have to make that decision together, you know?

00:29:20.559 --> 00:29:30.960
Um, so it's just one of those things that um you've stood by me with all my crazy ideas and um dreams, and it's only fair for me to do the same for you.

00:29:31.279 --> 00:29:42.640
I think we've hit a very difficult patch for the business, but I feel like, especially coming off of this last trip, my eyes are open to a maybe an entirely different avenue that we never really expected.

00:29:42.799 --> 00:29:51.279
And that's part of being in business, is just kind of rolling with it and and you know, letting those doors open and exploring those things and seeing what um what happens.

00:29:51.440 --> 00:30:00.240
And this year we're throwing down a lot of challenges to do a lot of things outside of our um our comfort zone, which is going to be a challenge for the family.

00:30:00.319 --> 00:30:02.640
But we know that this is like the year to do that.

00:30:02.960 --> 00:30:13.039
It's frustrating because I haven't heard back on many of those, so that's like, you know, one of the another big difficult step that we're trying to navigate as well.

00:30:13.279 --> 00:30:26.079
But I'm saying these things to say that to me, I felt that you gave me this opportunity and you put a lot of what you needed to do on the back burner for me to be there.

00:30:26.240 --> 00:30:26.880
You know what I mean?

00:30:26.960 --> 00:30:29.440
And you took on my load, and I felt like it.

00:30:29.599 --> 00:30:43.119
I don't know if you felt this way with me coming home, but I came home and said to myself, like, well, I can put some of my shit on the backborn burner right now and make sure that the priority is for you to do some things that you wanted to do that you couldn't do, right?

00:30:43.359 --> 00:30:55.039
Like, I'm gonna take care of the kid and do this stuff so that you can work and get caught up, and you know, I'm gonna do this and I'm gonna take my Saturday and just take care of the kids so you can start your project or whatever.

00:30:55.119 --> 00:31:00.720
Like, I I felt like I needed to do that for you because you did that for me, you know what I mean?

00:31:00.799 --> 00:31:10.799
And I think that as long as relationships are reciprocal and they feel that way with each other, then I think that you know that give and take is what makes it work, you know what I mean?

00:31:11.119 --> 00:31:11.519
Mm-hmm.

00:31:11.680 --> 00:31:12.319
I agree.

00:31:12.559 --> 00:31:22.720
But I mean it's all about you know putting things on hold in order to maybe make your partner lead in the race.

00:31:22.960 --> 00:31:23.440
Yeah.

00:31:23.759 --> 00:31:30.160
And then, you know, when when your partner is up there, then they're gonna reciprocate that energy and and do that for you.

00:31:30.319 --> 00:31:40.480
Like if you have um a goal or you know, something you're you're striving to do, or you know, pivot or whatnot.

00:31:40.559 --> 00:31:45.359
Like I think it's important for you guys to have like a cohesive team.

00:31:45.599 --> 00:31:48.559
Um one hand washes the other kind of thing.

00:31:48.880 --> 00:31:57.759
And uh yeah, I mean, I you came home and was like, listen, what's what's something that you you know, what's your plan for this weekend?

00:31:57.839 --> 00:31:58.640
Like, what do you want to do?

00:31:58.720 --> 00:32:00.319
Like, what is you know, what's a plan?

00:32:00.480 --> 00:32:06.160
And I said, I just am bound and determined to get into my office.

00:32:06.319 --> 00:32:08.640
Like, I wanna be in there on Monday.

00:32:08.799 --> 00:32:12.799
Like, I like you're like, this Monday?

00:32:12.880 --> 00:32:14.240
I'm like, yeah, Monday.

00:32:14.400 --> 00:32:31.359
Like I wanna move all my stuff in and I wanna I had already started moving all of my equipment and everything in there, uh, little by little while you were gone, but I never had the opportunity to kind of um like get in there like I wanted to to start organizing.

00:32:31.599 --> 00:32:38.400
Um so you know, that was really nice of you to allow me to take Saturday and Sunday.

00:32:38.640 --> 00:32:39.920
Whoa! Yeah, right.

00:32:40.400 --> 00:32:41.359
Mark it on the calendar.

00:32:41.599 --> 00:32:43.119
So I'm gonna whoop your ass.

00:32:44.319 --> 00:32:46.400
Yeah, I'm saying something nice about you.

00:32:48.480 --> 00:32:51.759
So yeah, it was um it was good.

00:32:52.000 --> 00:32:55.279
And uh the day you're coming home.

00:32:56.000 --> 00:32:58.319
I think you texted me and you're like, I'm in New York.

00:32:58.400 --> 00:33:00.319
And I was like, Oh, cool, I'm at Walmart.

00:33:00.480 --> 00:33:01.519
Like, do you need anything?

00:33:01.759 --> 00:33:04.480
And you're like, uh no, I think I'm good.

00:33:04.559 --> 00:33:05.519
And I'm like, okay.

00:33:05.839 --> 00:33:09.680
I hang up the phone and I like find something on marketplace.

00:33:09.759 --> 00:33:14.480
And I said to your mom, and I was like, get in, we're going to buy something off marketplace.

00:33:14.720 --> 00:33:16.319
You weren't even at Walmart and you lied to me.

00:33:16.480 --> 00:33:17.279
No, I was at Walmart.

00:33:17.440 --> 00:33:17.599
Okay.

00:33:17.920 --> 00:33:20.079
I had to come home, I had milk and I had everything.

00:33:21.119 --> 00:33:32.400
So I had to, so I got home, dropped all my stuff off, and the person that I had been corresponding with all day um about my table, right, like finally messaged me back and was like, hey, listen, I'm so sorry.

00:33:32.559 --> 00:33:34.880
Um, like, we're moving today.

00:33:35.200 --> 00:33:37.759
So, like, I haven't been able to check my phone.

00:33:37.839 --> 00:33:39.680
And I was like, all right, no problem.

00:33:39.839 --> 00:33:43.599
Um, I'll uh I can be there in about 30 minutes.

00:33:43.920 --> 00:33:49.200
Like, I was like 30 minutes away from this from this guy, and so we dropped off the milk.

00:33:49.359 --> 00:33:53.680
I made the baby a bottle, and I drove 30 minutes away to buy a table.

00:33:53.839 --> 00:34:04.160
The guy was like the sweetest guy who's like in the army, and uh, I told him that I was gonna take his table, um, his farm stand table, and I was gonna put it in my farm stand.

00:34:04.559 --> 00:34:18.000
And he told me that um they were stationed uh in Maine, and that table was custom made for him by his mother-in-law, and it was given to him when he first got deployed.

00:34:18.239 --> 00:34:27.280
Oh wow, and then it went to the went with them to their um army base, or I'm not sure if it's really the army.

00:34:28.079 --> 00:34:30.320
Right, military base is military base, yes.

00:34:30.400 --> 00:34:36.960
Uh, in Texas, Arizona, and Tennessee, I think.

00:34:37.119 --> 00:34:39.840
So it had gone and he was like, We're building a brand new house.

00:34:39.920 --> 00:34:40.480
I have five kids.

00:34:40.559 --> 00:34:41.840
I we outgrew this one.

00:34:42.000 --> 00:34:45.039
We just want to know that it's um it's been used.

00:34:45.199 --> 00:34:45.440
Yeah.

00:34:45.599 --> 00:34:50.639
Uh I meant to send him a picture of it today because I was like, as soon as my office is set up, like I'll I'll send it to you.

00:34:50.800 --> 00:34:51.119
That's awesome.

00:34:51.280 --> 00:34:53.440
And it fits in my office absolutely perfect.

00:34:53.599 --> 00:34:54.400
Yeah, we're escaping.

00:34:54.559 --> 00:34:55.119
Absolutely perfect.

00:34:55.360 --> 00:34:57.360
The whole office itself came out fantastic.

00:34:57.440 --> 00:34:58.480
I feel like I'm super excited.

00:34:58.719 --> 00:35:11.119
Now you're still putting some finishing touches on there, but I was glad that you were able to knock that off the list and get in there and have some of that independence and yeah and and freedom and make it really feel official, you know.

00:35:11.440 --> 00:35:22.079
Yeah, and so I've had the opportunity the last two days to actually work in there, and it feels like you've talked about it before, like making it feel like you're going to work.

00:35:22.239 --> 00:35:22.400
Yeah.

00:35:22.559 --> 00:35:30.159
So like I get up and I have my breakfast and then I make my coffee and I like go downstairs and take care of the dogs.

00:35:30.400 --> 00:35:32.400
Remove yourself from your comfort, you know what I mean?

00:35:33.280 --> 00:35:33.679
The couch.

00:35:34.000 --> 00:35:37.280
I have to walk outside in the elements.

00:35:37.519 --> 00:35:40.239
Day one, a complete rainstorm.

00:35:40.480 --> 00:35:45.679
I remember you were getting ready to work out there, and I was like, oh my god, it's absolutely pouring, and it was so loud.

00:35:45.920 --> 00:35:48.239
I was like, Well, we'll find out if we got any leaks in there.

00:35:48.559 --> 00:35:48.800
Yeah.

00:35:49.280 --> 00:35:49.679
Yep.

00:35:49.920 --> 00:36:05.840
So, um, and then today was a complete windstorm, but I've put up some curtains to block out the um air, and you know, it has some final touches that it needs, um, you know, looking for an all-in-one heating AC unit so I can use it in the summertime.

00:36:06.079 --> 00:36:07.519
But you're not super excited.

00:36:09.840 --> 00:36:14.559
Years ahead of the one that I have out there sitting there just holding boxes at this moment.

00:36:14.800 --> 00:36:16.559
I don't even know why I'm paying on that thing.

00:36:16.639 --> 00:36:17.920
That was a dumb idea.

00:36:18.159 --> 00:36:18.719
I love it.

00:36:18.960 --> 00:36:19.760
I love my office.

00:36:19.840 --> 00:36:20.800
It's so cute.

00:36:21.119 --> 00:36:21.679
I'm jealous.

00:36:22.079 --> 00:36:26.639
It's nice that I have like enough space that if Paisley has to join me, right?

00:36:26.880 --> 00:36:33.039
Like there's place there's a little cabinet area for her to put her toys in and stuff like that.

00:36:33.199 --> 00:36:43.039
So it's nice because not only do I use it for my business, um, like I can use it for my notary, um, your business.

00:36:43.280 --> 00:36:49.199
Um, if I'm booking any um travel plans or anything like that, things in one spot.

00:36:49.280 --> 00:36:53.920
And I've worked in um offices, medical offices since I got out of high school.

00:36:54.000 --> 00:36:55.519
Yep, 2010.

00:36:56.000 --> 00:36:58.320
Do the math on your hands, long time.

00:36:58.480 --> 00:36:58.639
Yeah.

00:36:58.800 --> 00:37:06.079
So every office that I went into, I collected office supplies because I love office supplies.

00:37:06.320 --> 00:37:07.039
Love them.

00:37:07.280 --> 00:37:07.760
Love them.

00:37:08.000 --> 00:37:08.960
You have an abundance.

00:37:09.119 --> 00:37:13.599
Like my favorite time of year is school season.

00:37:13.760 --> 00:37:14.159
Back to school.

00:37:14.320 --> 00:37:15.280
Back to school season.

00:37:15.840 --> 00:37:19.119
But it's after all the kids have gone back to school.

00:37:19.519 --> 00:37:20.559
Everything is on clearance.

00:37:20.719 --> 00:37:21.519
Everything's on clearance.

00:37:21.679 --> 00:37:22.079
Makes sense.

00:37:22.320 --> 00:37:26.960
Because all they want is all like the you know, Hello Kitty posters and all this kind of stuff.

00:37:27.039 --> 00:37:27.840
And I don't want any of that.

00:37:27.920 --> 00:37:28.480
Like, you can't.

00:37:28.719 --> 00:37:29.840
I need some good gel pans.

00:37:30.079 --> 00:37:31.519
Yes, you got it.

00:37:31.679 --> 00:37:36.000
So I have uh like totes of stuff, and it's perfect.

00:37:36.400 --> 00:37:46.480
But this is the first time ever in all the years that I've worked in an office that I've ever had all of my office stuff that I've collected over the years um in one spot.

00:37:46.960 --> 00:38:00.239
And the crazy thing is, is that everything that's like I'm picking up things like here and there to like final touches, but all the stuff that I have had is the same style that I'm in now.

00:38:00.880 --> 00:38:07.840
Like it's still very rustic, chic farmhouse kind of vibes with like a splash of pink.

00:38:08.159 --> 00:38:09.679
You ain't new to it, you've been true to it.

00:38:09.760 --> 00:38:10.400
You know what I mean?

00:38:10.480 --> 00:38:10.880
Mm-hmm.

00:38:11.119 --> 00:38:12.400
Amen, sister.

00:38:12.719 --> 00:38:22.000
Well, in true fashion for us, um, we might have had a a down week in between the chaos, but it's fixing to ramp up here again.

00:38:22.320 --> 00:38:33.199
Um, we're off to a new event, one we've never been to, never done before, a new avenue for us, and it's the three of us, you, me, and the little one, heading back on the road.

00:38:33.519 --> 00:38:36.960
Uh, we are heading to the Eastern Maine Sportsman Show.

00:38:37.119 --> 00:38:39.840
It is at the University of Maine Orino campus.

00:38:41.199 --> 00:38:43.920
So that's uh it's a bit of a drive.

00:38:44.079 --> 00:38:44.239
Yeah.

00:38:44.800 --> 00:38:45.519
Bit of a drive.

00:38:45.760 --> 00:38:47.199
You know what I'm excited about?

00:38:47.440 --> 00:38:48.559
Yes, I do actually.

00:38:49.280 --> 00:38:50.159
Tell the people.

00:38:50.719 --> 00:38:54.000
This is the first time we go to an event, and I don't have to haul.

00:38:54.239 --> 00:38:54.719
Yeah.

00:38:55.760 --> 00:38:58.559
I can sit back and be a passenger princess for once.

00:38:58.800 --> 00:38:59.119
Yeah.

00:38:59.360 --> 00:39:01.920
So we're going to a sportsman show.

00:39:02.079 --> 00:39:06.719
We're excited about the possibility in this new demographic and market for us.

00:39:06.880 --> 00:39:08.400
I think it's going to fit in perfectly.

00:39:08.480 --> 00:39:11.920
If this goes well, then we'll look into doing more of these.

00:39:12.159 --> 00:39:20.320
But um, if anybody, any of our loyal listeners are in the Bangor area, the northern Maine area, please come on out and check us out.

00:39:20.400 --> 00:39:22.880
We'll be at the University of Maine Orino campus.

00:39:23.440 --> 00:39:31.519
We're gonna head out there on Thursday, and uh we'll be open Friday evening, Saturday, Sunday, and then we'll come on back home.

00:39:31.760 --> 00:39:42.000
And uh I'll talk a little bit about it next week, but I'm gonna be just found out partaking on a wild western adventure and flying to Texas next week.

00:39:42.079 --> 00:39:45.280
So yes, the wife is approved.

00:39:45.519 --> 00:39:47.920
This whole under one stipulation.

00:39:48.159 --> 00:39:50.880
Yes, I have to hang your TV in my office.

00:39:51.119 --> 00:39:58.880
Yeah, and um this is just a reciprocal friends helping friends scenario.

00:39:59.119 --> 00:40:02.079
Family helps you, you help family, it is what it is.

00:40:02.400 --> 00:40:07.199
So um, those times and those calls aren't always convenient, but you always have to do them.

00:40:07.360 --> 00:40:09.840
So um, little road adventure.

00:40:10.000 --> 00:40:12.400
I'll pick that up and tell that story down the road.

00:40:12.559 --> 00:40:43.199
But uh for us this week, heading to Bangor, next week, Texas, that is what it is, that's the life and times that we live, and it's rather fitting as we're having this conversation about me leaving, you taking care of the slack, picking those things up, and then me coming back, trying to, you know, give you the time to do what you need to do, and then and then compiled right in the middle with us taking the family on the road to chase the adventure, to chase the business, to hopefully have that work out, and then leave all the to-do list to my mom.

00:40:43.280 --> 00:40:43.840
You know what I mean?

00:40:44.079 --> 00:40:52.559
So it's a fun, reciprocal, takes a village type of vibe that we live over here, but this is the testimony of a small business.

00:40:52.719 --> 00:40:56.320
This is what it takes for a small business to operate.

00:40:56.480 --> 00:41:02.800
This is what it takes for uh small business in this day and time to uh survive, right?

00:41:03.039 --> 00:41:04.000
And for sure.

00:41:04.400 --> 00:41:13.840
I think it's there's fundamentals here, whether you're listening today's episode and you're you you know you're like, hey, I'm I don't run my own business, I don't work from home, I don't do those things.

00:41:14.079 --> 00:41:18.079
Well, there's some relationship lessons that happen in this conversation as well.

00:41:18.400 --> 00:41:21.440
And um I think it all goes it all goes hand in hand.

00:41:21.519 --> 00:41:34.159
What we talked about today, these these practices can be considered for uh for your you know a romantic relationship, a marriage, uh a friendship, these premises, these things all reflect well into that, right?

00:41:34.239 --> 00:41:35.119
However you want to look at it.

00:41:35.519 --> 00:41:46.320
Seeing things from other people's perspective, putting yourself in their position, um, being willing to put your feelings and your needs and wants and desires on the back burner for the good of somebody that you care about.

00:41:46.880 --> 00:41:56.400
Um I think that business and and and relationships that really go hand in hand, but I've said it over the past couple weeks.

00:41:56.559 --> 00:41:59.440
I know you really haven't had the time to listen to it, so I can say it to you to your face.

00:41:59.599 --> 00:42:03.199
Thank you for supporting me and allowing me to uh to do this.

00:42:03.360 --> 00:42:13.199
And I am rather confident that someday, one of these days, hopefully, in a near not so distant future, it'll pay off and it'll all be worth it.

00:42:13.519 --> 00:42:16.239
Maybe we'll see.

00:42:16.880 --> 00:42:18.880
2026 seems like a good year.

00:42:19.119 --> 00:42:20.880
That seems so suspicious.

00:42:21.119 --> 00:42:22.960
Well, I guess you'll have to wait and find out.

00:42:23.199 --> 00:42:24.000
I guess so.

00:42:24.960 --> 00:42:27.199
But until then, it's midnight.

00:42:27.440 --> 00:42:28.079
Ugh.

00:42:28.880 --> 00:42:30.800
And I gotta edit this podcast.

00:42:31.039 --> 00:42:33.519
So um And I get to go work in my new office.

00:42:33.760 --> 00:42:34.159
There you go.

00:42:34.320 --> 00:42:35.599
Hey, love you bye.

00:42:35.920 --> 00:42:39.199
Thank you for supporting our American dream.

00:42:39.440 --> 00:42:41.440
My American dream and my new office.

00:42:41.679 --> 00:42:44.159
Our new office, which but I have the TV, I gotta hang.

00:42:44.239 --> 00:42:46.719
Now go wash your hands before you walk in my new office.

00:42:47.360 --> 00:42:48.159
Fell things savage.

00:42:48.559 --> 00:42:49.920
Dirty scoundrel.

00:42:52.320 --> 00:42:54.719
That's it, and that's all, Biggie Smalls.

00:43:08.800 --> 00:43:20.960
If you're a Loud Proud American and you find yourself just wanting more, find me on YouTube and Facebook at Loud Proud American Face page, as my mama calls it.

00:43:21.119 --> 00:43:36.079
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00:43:45.360 --> 00:43:52.079
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00:43:52.239 --> 00:43:59.440
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00:44:00.000 --> 00:44:01.760
I like to make a thing.

00:44:03.199 --> 00:44:04.320
Make it clean.

00:44:05.440 --> 00:44:06.559
I hate to say.

00:44:08.000 --> 00:44:09.119
I told you so.

00:44:13.599 --> 00:44:14.880
Make it clean.

00:44:15.920 --> 00:44:17.199
I hate to say.

00:44:18.400 --> 00:44:19.760
I talk you so.

00:44:20.719 --> 00:44:23.920
I truly thank you for supporting my American dream.

00:44:24.000 --> 00:44:27.039
Now go wash your fucking hands, you filthy savage.